Stop measuring your success and worth against someone else’s achievements – Episode 138

Following people who inspire you? Great! Pressuring yourself to achieve everything they have? Not great! Haha This episode is about ditching the comparison-itis and being content with where you are.

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All right. Now on to today’s episode…

Stop measuring your success and worth again someone else’s achievements

You’ve probably said or thought some of these things.

“Wow she has thousands of followers. I must post everyday and build a huge audience too.”
“They’re working on new projects all the time. I should push myself to work harder and do the same.”
“I’m already 30, my peers have achieved so much. I’m not worthy if I’m satisfied with where I am.”
“How neat and perfectly organised his home is. My house is a mess and so is my life!”


Breath in deeply and think of all the expectations you’re placing on yourself. Now as you breathe out…


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*phew* Don’t you feel your shoulders slumping with relief? And all the different areas of your body just un-clenching? 😅

When we desire growth (personal, business, spiritual, or anything else) it’s natural to infuse our life with high quality connections and content. Often this involves people who achieve great things. Could be friends and colleagues – people you know personally. Or those you follow online.

This is a good practice. It fills you with ideas, purpose, and inspiration. When you see someone doing well in whatever area you aspire to grow in, you feel like you can do it too, right?

The problem is when you start comparing your life to theirs, and place expectations of greatness and perfection upon yourself

This happens especially with women. Most of the time, the expectations we place on ourselves are ridiculously unrealistic!

Guess what? Just because they’re inspiring to you (or thousands/millions of other people), doesn’t mean you have to achieve all the freaking stuff they have!

You don’t need to be ambitious
You don’t need to compete
You don’t need to be the best

Heck, you don’t even need to constantly be the best version of your own damn self! Give yourself a break. Your life and work can be deeply fulfilling and meaningful without having to be grand and glorious. There’s magic in simplicity and ordinariness

Your circumstances, experiences, and way of working are unique to you. Nothing in your life is the same as whoever you want to be like. And there’s a lot of deep contentment to be had even when you’re growing and prospering in a very steady and gentle way.

See, you can achieve whatever you put your mind to, just know that you don’t have to.

I’m not asking you to just give up and sit on your butt. 😛 By all means put your efforts towards your goals. But know that it’s okay to feel perfectly content with where you are, what you’ve already achieved, and your own gentle pace of growing.

If you sit down and really think about it, you’ll realise you’ve accomplished a lot more than you give yourself credit for

In last week’s episode, I was talking about spiritual writing practices, and one of those practices is to list out your achievements, what you’ve already accomplished. That’s very important to do because only when you start writing it down and reading it out do you realise, “Oh, I’ve done so much!”

And this could be done every day if you like. But then, it shouldn’t become another point of pressure or perfectionism. Haha Just do it as something enjoyable for yourself whenever you feel like.

Or you can even do it once in 15 days or a month. Just look back, “this got done, this got done”. Look at the bigger picture from the outside and you’ll be amazed at everything you’ve managed to accomplish, from the smallest to the biggest things.

Give yourself credit for that! But more importantly, you need to understand that…

Whether you’ve accomplished something or not, you’re more than just a sum of your accomplishments! ♥️

So, I just wanted to give you this reminder. Alright! I’ll be back again next week. And yes, it’ll be a live recorded episode. I’ll probably tell you a bit about my trip also. (laughs)

I’m excited about it! It’s been so long since I’ve travelled like this and met friends and what not. It’s a vegan wedding, by the way. So wow! I can’t wait to eat all the yummy food! Anyway, I’ll tell you all about that later.

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